Thursday, April 29, 2010


It's Thursday. Today was the day of the consult with Jill.

I got to the hospital with time to spare and made my way up to the 3rd floor fertility clinic (with their own private entrance, which is kinda nice) and was greeted by a friendly person behind the desk who made a point to comment on my cute purse. Okay, they were golden after that.

I sat and waited for no more than 5 minutes when I was greeted by Jill--she just looked nice. We went to a "meeting room" of sort and away we went.

First, family health/my health history was discussed. Lots and lots of questions, but necessary. Then, we went over the "process"...from start to end. She gave me TONS of info to process and it's a lot to take in, but I'm so ready. There's a bunch of stuff that needs to take place before we can even begin to think of a transfer: psych evaluation for both my husband and I, FDA tests (I'll address that in a sec) and other lab-work.

So, the FDA tests...being a gestational surrogate, in the eyes of the FDA, is along the same lines of being an organ donor. There are a number of tests that I (and my husband) need to pass in order to be "accepted" by them. This was a bit of a surprise to me, but I understand why. There will be lots of blood draws. Thankfully, needles don't scare me. :) Hopefully the hubby will be good with all.

Oh, and once we get to the point of getting my ute (short for uterus) ready, I will have to give myself injections once a day...and then continue them for 3 months after I'm preggo. And one of those injections for some period of time will have to be given by my husband. WOO! Man, I'm so glad he's on board with all of this.

After all the talk was done (a good hour), I was given a tour of the facility. Every single person working there made a point to say hi. It didn't feel like a normal doctor's office. It was much more personal. Jill showed me a locked door and explained that's where they do the actual embryo creation and that's where they are kept frozen. To think that Steve and Sara's baby is in that room waiting to come to life is just amazing.

I also met the RE (the doc) and he was just as nice as the nurses. This is a good place. I feel good about everything.

Next step: CMV test (to make sure the husband and I aren't carrying some funky antibody's around)

Tuesday, April 27, 2010

Excited for Thursday

Thursday is the big day.  The consult with Dr. Fertility man (I'll share his name once I can start sharing specifics).  I'm excited and nervous at the same time...I just want this to happen so very badly--not for me, but for Steve and Sara.

I cried last night while watching "Brothers & Sisters"...there is a couple on there using a surrogate (they're gay, but that's beside the point) and they found out last night that their surrogate is pregnant.  I want to be the one to make that call to Steve and Sara some day.

So, looking forward to Thursday morning!

Thursday, April 22, 2010


Jill. I don't know Jill. Talked to her briefly on the phone today and she sounds like she's a good person. I don't know her title, but I understand Jill is the "case worker" of sort at the specific doctor's office (we'll call him "Dr. S") that "deals" with all the people that are dealing with fertility issues. So, Jill has to be cool. I think she is.

"Steve" called me today and let me know he spoke with Jill and gave her the heads up about me. The next step was for me to call her and make an appointment with her to go over whatever it is that they need.

A minor set-back in the process...not a HUGE deal, but a little disappointing...I can't start any hormone testing until I'm done nursing. And that hormone testing has to wait for 12 weeks after I stop nursing. Bummer. I had already planned on weaning London in the next 2 weeks, so it's all good.

Fortunately, we can do some other "stuff" during that 12 weeks...some different testing and what not--so all should be okay.

So, the appointment with Jill is set. Consult is on.


Oh, and side note--London started walking today. WOO!

Tuesday, April 20, 2010

So we meet

When Steve and I had our conversation about a week ago, we thought it would be a good idea to get together with our spouses and just talk. Get everything out in the open--what they want, what we want, what our timeline is, etc...

So tonight, we sat at their kitchen table and talked. For nearly an hour and a half.

We heard their story and bottom line is this--to see Steve talk about having a child--I just know this is the right thing to do.

We discussed the fact that they've been on such a roller-coaster with this whole thing--from having other surrogates lined up only to back out for various reasons to the psychological exam that they had to take (that my husband and I will end up taking too). Through all of these up's and down's, never once did Steve say he wanted to give up.

All the time he kept talking, I kept thinking "I want this roller coaster for them to go up--and keep going up".

This just feels perfect to me. They are such an awesome couple and I just feel really good about this.

Next step: Steve is going to call their RE (Reproductive Endocrinologist) and give them a "heads up". I need to make an appointment with him for a physical and go from there.

I am overjoyed at the prospect of helping Steve and Sara out. It's beyond words. I hope this all goes through and my dream would be sometime in 2011 they will be holding a new-born baby in their arms.

I also want to give a "shout out" to my awesome husband. He's on board with all of this and I so appreciate that. This might be a bumpy road for us, but he understands and supports my decision to do this. I wouldn't be able to do this without him and for that, he is loved beyond what he knows.

Thursday, April 15, 2010

The Facebook Message that will likely change my life

Ever since I had a hard time getting pregnant over 5 years ago, I've wanted to be a surrogate. It's like a I need to do this. No, more like I HAVE to do this.

So, I thought I would look into it after the birth of my daughter, Emerson. 9 months after she was born, I found out I was pregnant with my daughter, London--so that put the surrogacy on hold for a bit.

After I had London in May of 2009, I thought 2010 would be a good time to start looking into doing a surrogacy; do some more research, check out some agencies...stuff like that.

I submitted an application to an agency in Madison, Wisconsin and had been e-mailing back and forth with them to get the process going. Then, I did a little research online about them (should have done that before I filled out the app to save myself some time) and came to learn that this wasn't a great company to work I kind of just let that one go to the side. I researched some more agencies and found one that appeared to be I downloaded their application and began to fill it out.

Then, last week, I got message via Facebook.

A friend of mine (we'll call him "Steve") messaged me and said he had "heard a rumor" about me and wanted to know if it was true. So, I called him. After a brief conversation, I knew my life was about to change.

He and his new wife, "Sara", want a child. She has 2 from a prior marriage and he has none of his own. I've known "Steve" for almost 15 years and could tell even from our phone conversation his want for a child of his own. The "rumor" he heard was that I wanted to do a surrogacy.

Next step: let's meet.