Many people have asked me...."so how is this all gonna work?" (meaning delivery/hospital/after the hospital)
And my answer is...."I don't know".
I know how I WANT it to work, but when it comes down to giving birth, nothing ever happens how you think it will. And because this situation is a bit more "special", I really think it's going to be one of those things that we'll be winging on the day of delivery.
But if you're curious as to my ultimate plan (which the guys appear to be on board with), here goes...
The BIGGEST thing for me is to have them there at the birth. That's huge for me. I want them to experience getting handed their child as soon as it's born. I want them to see the first breath, hear the first cry. I want that child to look up at his new family.
My due date is August 7th.
I believe the plan is for the guys to fly out August 1st (or somewhere close to that date). Assuming I'm on track with the other deliveries I've had, that should be good (I was late with all of own kids, had to be induced each time). Once they get settled in Wisconsin before the birth, I will be MUCH more at ease. But until they get here (yes, I know we've got like 4 more months, but a girl can freak out a little bit, right?) I'll be a wreck.
The last thing I want is to go into labor with them not in the area. It's a good 10 hour flight. Not something they can really do at the last minute. So, I will need EVERYONE'S prayers, thoughts and whatever it is that you can do to make sure I don't go into labor until after August 1st, okay??
I plan to give birth vaginally (let's not even talk cesarean, okay??). The plan is for my husband to be there (so I can yell at him, even though it's not even his kid) and for the guys to be there as well. Yeah, we're all okay with what they're going to see (i.e lady parts). It is what it is. Note to self, groom up.
Once the baby is born, I believe they'll take him and the guys into a different room and do all the "new baby" stuff (weight, measurements, temps, bath, etc...). I really don't need to be there for that, and I want Tomas and Honza to not feel weird with me in the room. They need that time with their son. Alone. Bonding.
I'll recover in the "birth room" for a bit, eat a cheeseburger and get moved to a different recovery room (of course I'm hoping to get a few chances to hang with the guys and the baby for a bit--but I'm going to leave that up to them. This is their time, not mine.)
Tomas and Honza plan on staying at the hospital in their own room, with the baby. I'll have my own room as well. I will be pumping for the baby, so that will keep me busy. Chances are I'll get released from the hospital probably within 24 hours. The baby will be released within about 2 days (assuming all is good) and they'll be staying in the area, close to both me and the hospital.
As far as how often I'll see them/the baby afterwards is completely their decision. Like I mentioned, I'll be pumping breast milk, so they'll have to get that from me-whether it's me dropping it off or them picking it up. They need their space, their time with their new son and I won't do anything to infringe on that. But I will need to get my baby cheek squeeze in at least a little bit. :)
Now, many people have also asked me "What happens if you want to keep the baby?".
Okay, here's the deal with that. I love kids a lot, I do. But I can say 100%, without a doubt that I will not want to keep this child. Why? It's simple--because it's not mine. This child was created with the love and work of Tomas and Honza. This is their child. I'm simply a vehicle to bring this child into the world. Giving them the gift of helping them create a family means so much to me, more so than wanting another child of my own. Will that feeling change once I have the baby? No.
So, that's kind of the plan, knowing full well the plan is ultimately up to God.
Let's hope God has a good plan of his own for all of us. :)