Saturday, March 31, 2012

21 Weeks

21 weeks already--actually, nearly 22!

How am I feeling?  Pretty decent.  I've had no more bleeding (thank goodness) but I'm still being cautious about everything I do--just to be on the safe side.  I've got some pretty precious cargo I'm carrying around!

My energy level is good--I get tired at night (shouldn't we all??) and try my best to sleep as soundly as humanly possible.  I've definitely increased my dream activity--and some not all that great.  I had a dream the other night that I was grocery shopping and someone stole my cart that I had spent like an hour filling.  I woke up sweating.

Seriously.

Other than that, I'm just doing my best to keep Jachym's little habitat as comfy and healthy as possible!

Tomas brought some belly buds with him when he was here, so I'm gonna hook that up tonight and get this kid used to some tunes!!  The guys haven't sent me any of their voice files yet, so until they do (or tell me what music they want Jachym to hear), I'm thinking I'll fill this little one up with some Styx, definitely some good 80's music and a little jazz just for good measure. 

Probably lots of Styx.

Anywho--here's a belly pic for ya.


Thursday, March 29, 2012

Ultrasound Photos!

Ladies and gentleman, I'd like to introduce you to Jáchym!





Isn't he cute??  Can't figure out who he looks like, though--guess we'll find out after he's born!!
 

Wednesday, March 28, 2012

Please go read this

My awesome surro friend, Jeni, did an amazing blog post and I absolutely have to share it.

A Surrogate's Point Of View

Please, go read it.  Well written and speaks to everything as I see it.

(Thank you, Jeni, for writing such an awesome thing!!)

Tuesday, March 27, 2012

The Logistics

Many people have asked me...."so how is this all gonna work?" (meaning delivery/hospital/after the hospital)

And my answer is...."I don't know".

I know how I WANT it to work, but when it comes down to giving birth, nothing ever happens how you think it will.  And because this situation is a bit more "special", I really think it's going to be one of those things that we'll be winging on the day of delivery.

But if you're curious as to my ultimate plan (which the guys appear to be on board with), here goes...

The BIGGEST thing for me is to have them there at the birth.  That's huge for me.  I want them to experience getting handed their child as soon as it's born.  I want them to see the first breath, hear the first cry.  I want that child to look up at his new family.

My due date is August 7th. 

I believe the plan is for the guys to fly out August 1st (or somewhere close to that date).  Assuming I'm on track with the other deliveries I've had, that should be good (I was late with all of own kids, had to be induced each time).  Once they get settled in Wisconsin before the birth, I will be MUCH more at ease.  But until they get here (yes, I know we've got like 4 more months, but a girl can freak out a little bit, right?) I'll be a wreck.

The last thing I want is to go into labor with them not in the area.  It's a good 10 hour flight.  Not something they can really do at the last minute.  So, I will need EVERYONE'S prayers, thoughts and whatever it is that you can do to make sure I don't go into labor until after August 1st, okay??

I plan to give birth vaginally (let's not even talk cesarean, okay??).  The plan is for my husband to be there (so I can yell at him, even though it's not even his kid) and for the guys to be there as well.  Yeah, we're all okay with what they're going to see (i.e lady parts). It is what it is.  Note to self, groom up.

Once the baby is born, I believe they'll take him and the guys into a different room and do all the "new baby" stuff (weight, measurements, temps, bath, etc...).  I really don't need to be there for that, and I want Tomas and Honza to not feel weird with me in the room.  They need that time with their son.  Alone.  Bonding.

I'll recover in the "birth room" for a bit, eat a cheeseburger and get moved to a different recovery room (of course I'm hoping to get a few chances to hang with the guys and the baby for a bit--but I'm going to leave that up to them.  This is their time, not mine.)
Tomas and Honza plan on staying at the hospital in their own room, with the baby.  I'll have my own room as well.  I will be pumping for the baby, so that will keep me busy.  Chances are I'll get released from the hospital probably within 24 hours.  The baby will be released within about 2 days (assuming all is good) and they'll be staying in the area, close to both me and the hospital.

As far as how often I'll see them/the baby afterwards is completely their decision.  Like I mentioned, I'll be pumping breast milk, so they'll have to get that from me-whether it's me dropping it off or them picking it up.  They need their space, their time with their new son and I won't do anything to infringe on that.  But I will need to get my baby cheek squeeze in at least a little bit. :)

Now, many people have also asked me "What happens if you want to keep the baby?".

Okay, here's the deal with that.  I love kids a lot, I do.  But I can say 100%, without a doubt that I will not want to keep this child.  Why?  It's simple--because it's not mine.  This child was created with the love and work of Tomas and Honza.  This is their child. I'm simply a vehicle to bring this child into the world.   Giving them the gift of helping them create a family means so much to me, more so than wanting another child of my own.  Will that feeling change once I have the baby?  No. 
So, that's kind of the plan, knowing full well the plan is ultimately up to God. 

Let's hope God has a good plan of his own for all of us. :)

Friday, March 23, 2012

20 weeks, 3 days (belly pic)

Trying to get on some sort of schedule for these now....

So here is a belly pic-- 20 weeks, 3 days (pardon the cheesy, "just out of the shower" look):


Twice in the past week, I've been told I'm "bigger"...I'll take those as compliments :)

Thursday, March 22, 2012

Tomas and Honza are having....

A BOY!!!

That's right, folks--there's a beautiful baby boy hanging out in my belly and he's PERFECT!!!

We had our 20 week ultrasound today (we're actually 20 weeks, 2 days).  Tomas flew in from Prague last night and we met up this morning at our house.  The ultrasound was at 10 and we got there plenty early so we had some time to chat about things--it was just great to catch up with him and get some of the logistics figured out regarding delivery day.

We were there for about an hour total--the u/s tech was awesome.  She explained everything she was doing and pointed out everything we needed to see.  Of course one of the first things we saw was it's "thing" and the tech said she was 100% sure it was a little boy.

I think we were both taken aback a bit--we were both expecting a girl! 

After checking everything from the heart to the bladder to the kidney's to the placenta, we were done.  My doc came in and watched the scan a bit too and said everything looks great!

Not that I was worried at all, but it's a huge sigh of relief to know everything is good.  I think Tomas felt the same.

After the ultrasound, we headed to the hospital where I will deliver and got a tour of the women's section. Of course I've been there/done that 3 times, but I wanted Tomas to feel comfortable with everything.  Seems all is good and many of his/our questions were answered.

I'm going to shoot for a four-peat.  Same doc, same nurse and same anesthesiologist at delivery.  I'm 3/3 so far.  Wish me luck.

My husband and I enjoyed a lovely typical Wisconsin "supper club" dinner tonight with Tomas and he'll be headed out tomorrow morning--no, he's not going back to Prague, he's going to Florida to participate in a triathlon on Saturday morning before returning to Prague on Sunday.

Yeah, a triathlon.  As in swim 2 miles, bike 25 miles and run 6 miles.

I may have called him "nuts" to his face a few times.

So, as he's enjoying his tri, I'll be sitting at home with my feet up sipping a cup of decaf coffee and eating Cheetos.

Overall, it was a fantastic day.  I simply cannot wait to see this baby come into this world and to see Tomas an Honza experience everything there is to experience when having a baby.  They are going to be amazing parents!!  I am over the moon excited for them and every day am reminded how amazing this entire journey has been and will continue to be.  Today just solidified that all over.

Tomas has the photos from the ultrasound, and I've asked him to scan to me--I'll post them as soon as I have them so you can see how cute this little kiddo is!!

Tuesday, March 20, 2012

Robert

I (actually, Elliot) would like you to meet Robert:


Elliot found Robert a few days ago and has been the best daddy and friend to this thing as you could ever see.

He even made him a house:



I love that kid.

Wednesday, March 14, 2012

One Week

In one week, Tomas and Honza will find out the sex of the baby!!

EEK!

Our 20 week ultrasound is scheduled for next week Thursday and I couldn't be more excited.  And the best part--Tomas will be coming for it!  YEAH!!  (Honza, if you're reading this, I wish you could come too--you'll be missed!!)

I'm just excited for them to have a true glimpse and their child, "in the flesh" per say--what a cool thing this will be!

So, now is the time--what's your guess?  Boy or Girl??

Tuesday, March 13, 2012

I'm a happy girl....

Hotel Room.

By myself.

'Nuf said.

Saturday, March 10, 2012

What you've been waiting for... (a belly pic!!)

Without further adieu...  :)

18 weeks, 3 days
I'll do my best to update ya'll with one of these every week :)

Enjoy!

Thursday, March 8, 2012

Minor Scare...but all is good.

We had our first scare this morning.

Not to get into the gross details, but let's just say I was bleeding a bit when I woke up.

I freaked.

My doctor's office wasn't open yet, so I contacted the "after hours" people.  I spoke with a nurse, told her my "issues" and though she assured me it wasn't emergent, I should still probably follow up with my doctor's office in the next few days.

Uh, yeah.  How about I just follow up with them right away, huh?

So right away when they opened up, I told my doc's nurse the situation and they said to come on in and they can check me out.

I was kinda hoping for a quick ultrasound, but that wasn't necessary.  They checked the baby's heart beat (156) and I could still feel it moving around, so those were both great signs.  He looked at my cervix (yes, literally) and said due to the fact that I'm on my 4th pregnancy, my cervix may have a tendency to bleed...on the outside.  The shop is still quite closed up (that's what we want) and there was nothing to be concerned about.

Whew.

He said what likely caused it was some heavy lifting (uh, my 4 year old daughter is over 50 pounds) or some "rough" sex.  Though my husband would like to take credit for it all, it wasn't that.

Sorry, hun.

Bed-rest is not necessary, but I've been instructed to more or less "hang low" the next 2 weeks, which I plan on doing.  Maybe this will give me an opportunity to get that belly shot for you guys!!

The bleeding has stopped, so I'm thankful all seems to be good.

But man, what a way to freak a girl out!!

Monday, March 5, 2012

Rockin' In Paradise

On Saturday night, I went to a concert.

I saw Styx for the 17th time.

And it was great.  Awesome.  Nothing less than I expected, even after seeing them that many times.

I became a Styx fan in 1997...I heard "Come Sail Away" as I was driving in my car and that was the end for me.

Shortly after becoming an obsessed fan, I went to my first Styx concert at a local county fair.  As they were announcing the band members, they got to the drummer, Todd Sucherman, and I about crapped my pants.

I knew Todd.  Well, I didn't know Todd. I knew Todd's brother, Paul.  I played in many-a-band with Paul.  For many years.  How did I not know his brother was the drummer for Styx?!?!

Anyway, I never used the relationship to my advantage.  I did see Paul at a few local concerts and was able to meet Todd, which was uber awesome!  Also (thanks to my friend who won a contest on the radio) I was able to meet the rest of the guys a few years back.

I've seen them more in the front row than not, which is quite an awesome experience.

Yes, I know most of the guys touring with Styx are as old as my father--I couldn't care.  I'm a big fan and will be forever.

And thank goodness I have some awesome friends that love them just as much as I do :)

Anyway, I know I owe you all a belly pic. I will get you a good one, I promise--I seriously haven't had an opportunity to get one.

But I have a teaser for you--this was post concert, so forgive the funky hair, weird pose and the fact it was taken with my phone.  And I know it's not a good indication of the belly yet--but I had to share the shirt. 

I can officially say I've worn this shirt every time I've been pregnant.


Though I can't guarantee the child inside of me will be a Styx fan, at least I can hope :)  Thanks to Tomas for quasi "approving" the use of this shirt for me to wear.